Behind the Symbolism of a Wedding Ring and Love Locks on Bridges
Imagine this….You glace down at your left hand to discover that the diamond in your wedding ring is gone. You are frantically looking around you to see if it fell out somewhere around you. NOPE, it is nowhere to be found. You start to retrace your steps and realize that you have been in a few stores and a few different cars today. You also have no idea when the last time you actually noticed if your diamond was there. I predict that you would be panicking beyond belief. I would be.
Why are we so attached to items that represent love? Is it just a wedding ring? If you have lost your ring, does it make you any less attached to the person you’ve married? Yet, chances are, that when you read that first paragraph you looked down at your own wedding /engagement ring and were relieved that it was still there.
I’d think that if your love lock got cut off of the Pont des Arts footbridge in Paris (or any other bridge bearing love locks) you’d probably be upset as well. Couples started locking padlocks close to 100 years ago. It is said that a young woman (Nada) and man (Relja) fell in love and always met at the same place on the bridge Most Ljubavi (lit. the Bridge of Love) in the town of Vrnjačka Banja. The young man went away to war in Greece and fell in love with someone else. Nada never recovered and died due to heartbreak. Other young women from Vrnjačka Banja wanted to protect their love, so they attached a padlock to the bridge Most Ljubavi (where Nada and Relja used to meet). This symbolism of love has been copied on several other bridges through-out the world. The idea of throwing away the key to a padlock that is locked to a structure that is everlasting somehow represents our love.
Why is it that we hold onto these symbols so tight? Why do we need these symbols at all? Will a relationship end just because a lock was cut off of a bridge? Will a relationship suffer because a ring went missing? The easy answer is no. Our relationship will not change at all. However, these items give us hope when times get tough. In those moments we are able to look at our ring or our lock, and remember why it’s there in the first place. The idea of having a new diamond or locking a new love lock just doesn’t feel the same. When you look at your wedding ring, what do you think of? You probably think of the day you got engaged or married. Visualize looking at a ring that is a copy of your wedding ring. Does it give you the same feeling? Probably not. I think that’s why we become so devastated when things happen to these items. They’ve become irreplaceable because of the feelings that are attached to them.
So my suggestion for today is to make sure you get your rings checked regularly. You don’t want to look down at your left hand and realize your “love diamond” is gone.